God’s Frown
I have a friend who, when some minor misfortune befalls her, will regularly joke, “It’s because God hates me.” She says it with a laugh. But knowing that humor can sometimes hide the truth, I decide on one occasion to press her on the matter. “Do you really think that’s the case?” She responds that, of course, rationally she knows this is not true. But even so, beneath the surface of her consciousness lurks the troubling image of a disapproving God. A God shaking his head. A God wagging his finger. Whenever something goes wrong, she feels God’s frown.
And when you feel God’s frown, life becomes an uphill slog, a thankless chore, a series of exasperated sighs. You work all day and see no results. You throw your net out for a catch of fish and come up empty. Again. And again.
When I hear someone respond to a word of encouragement or reassurance with a cynical or jaded, “If you say so,” I wonder if what they are feeling is the weight of God’s frown.
Of Sin and Shame
Listen again to what Simon says when Jesus invites him to let down his net. “Master, we have worked all night long but have caught nothing. Yet if you say so, I will let down the nets” (5:5). I wonder if Simon is living under God’s frown. Some people hear a man already full of faith. They hear “If you say so”—which is to say, they hear a man who trusts in the word of Jesus.
But Simon’s astonishment when the nets begin to break and the boat nearly goes under, suggests to me that Simon was not expecting this.
And his next words—“Go away from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man!”—suggest to me that Simon has lived so squarely beneath God’s frown that he cannot comprehend this sudden turn in fortune, this unexpected grace. In the Greek, “Go away” comes from the same word from which we get the English word “exorcism.” In this sense, Simon was trying to exorcise the spirit of God from his life.
His words—“Go away from me”—also suggest to me the true origin of our sense of God’s frown. Simon is not the first character to tell Jesus to go away, to leave him alone. Just a little while earlier, a demon-possessed man in a synagogue had shouted, “Leave us alone!” (4:34). In both protests, I hear the voice of Satan. Satan gets his name from a Hebrew word that means something like “accuse.” Hence Satan is the “accuser.” His most crippling weapon is accusation. Which is to say, shame. It is not so much that Satan makes us do bad things. All Satan does is the get the ball rolling with the simple message, “You are bad.” The sense of accusation, of God frowning, is the wound that festers. It separates a person from God, not in reality, but in their imagination.
Why does Simon tell Jesus to leave? “I am a sinful man,” he says (5:8), expressing the self-accusation of Satan. He means, “I am bad, unworthy, undeserving.” He means, “I am a disappointment. I live under God’s frown.”
The original sense of the word “sin” was to miss the mark. It indicated the reality of our actions. Sometimes we miss the mark. But Satan’s trick has been to amplify and extend the meaning of “sin” to refer not only to what we do, but to who we are. Sin has become something like a trojan horse for Satan, sneaking into the church what God never intended to be there: shame. Separation.
The Real Exorcism
The verse in which Simon tells Jesus to leave, is the same verse in which Luke refers to Simon as “Simon Peter.” As though to signal that this is a pivotal moment, the moment when Simon will come to learn of his true self (even if the name comes later).
If this is indeed a pivotal moment in Peter’s life, it is Jesus who makes the pivot. To begin, Jesus does not consent to Simon’s request. He does not leave Simon. He cannot be exorcised from Simon’s life. It is, in fact, the opposite. He draws closer to him.
But what is most significant, perhaps, is not what Jesus says, but what he doesn’t say. Just like the loving father to the prodigal son, he makes no mention of sin. He does not say, “Yes, you are a sinful mess, but I love and forgive you anyway.” He does not say, “You’re twisted, but I’ll straighten you out.”
Instead he assures Simon that he is right where he is supposed to be: “Do not be afraid” (5:10). And without a word about shaping up or getting right with God or repentance, Jesus proceeds directly to insist that Simon is a blessing to the world. “From now on you will be catching people” (5:10). I am reminded of how, in the gospel of Matthew, Jesus tells his followers bluntly, “You are the light of the world” (Matt 5:14). Not “You will be transformed into the light of the world” or “One day in the future, you will reflect my light into the world,” but “You are [right this very minute] the light of the world.”
The logic of our world goes like this. When a person is bad, they must repent. They must be changed. Then they are good and acceptable, and then we can welcome them to our tables. But the unruly logic of the gospel, the good news of God’s kingdom, is that a person is unshakably good, a child of God, bearing God’s image and blessing, always already welcome at God’s table. This truth, which nothing can erase, is the starting point for everything else. This truth is not the reward for repentance, but the unconditional blessing that precedes it and makes it possible.
Peter’s discipleship does not begin with his resolve to become a better person. It begins with Jesus exorcising a demon, so to speak—Jesus exorcising Simon’s shame, the perceived frown of God, and insisting that he has all he needs to follow Jesus and be a blessing.
“Behold the One
Beholding You…and Smiling”
Jesuit priest and spiritual director Bill Cain encountered something of this exorcism of shame later in life as he cared for his dying father.
“His father had become a frail man, dependent on Bill to do everything for him. Though he was physically not what he had been, and the disease was wasting him away, his mind remained alert and lively. In the role reversal common to adult children who care for their dying parents, Bill would put his father to bed and then read him to sleep, exactly as his father had done for him in childhood. Bill would read from some novel, and his father would lie there, staring at his son, smiling.
“Bill was exhausted from the day’s care and work and would plead with his dad, ‘Look, here’s the idea. I read to you. You fall asleep.’ Bill’s father would impishly apologize and dutifully close his eyes. But this wouldn’t last long. Soon enough, Bill’s father would pop one eye open and smile at his son. Bill would catch him and whine, ‘Now, come on.’ The father would, again, oblige, until he couldn’t anymore, and the other eye would open to catch a glimpse of his son. This went on and on, and after his father’s death, Bill realized that this evening ritual was really a story of a father who just couldn’t take his eyes off his kid. How much more so God?
“Anthony De Mello [an Indian priest] writes, ‘Behold the One beholding you, and smiling.’” [1] What a surprise it was to Simon—to behold the one beholding him, and to see not a frown but a smile. It changed “everything” for Simon Peter (5:11), Luke tells us.
And it changes everything for us, too. It is the root of the gospel, the beginning of the good news. A God who gazes upon us, who cannot take his eyes off us, who smiles in adoration. A God who declares to all of us what Jesus heard so clearly on the banks of the Jordan, “You are my beloved child, in whom I am wonderfully pleased” (3:22). This changes everything.
Prayer
Who sees our goodness
And smiles—
Exorcise from our thinking
The image of your frown,
The idea you are disappointed
With who we are
…
So that we might live well,
Rooted and grounded
In the reality of your love
And our goodness,
And that we might bless others
By looking upon them
With the same tender eyes
And loving smile.
In Christ, who draws near: Amen.
[1] Told by Greg Boyle in Tattoos on the Heart (New York: Free Press, 2010), 19-20.